About

Welcome to The Messiful Mama. I’m Xavia and my life is a wonderful and beautiful mess!

I am the mother of 4 amazing, spirited children who save my life everyday. I pour myself into parenting and, although, there are plenty of days where that effort is full of chaos and drama and sometimes even hair pulling, I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world. A little mindfulness and meditation and a whole lot of loving myself through my mistakes and somehow, moment by moment, I make it work.

I am a creator, music, food, and crafts, anything really. I feel most alive when I am being creative so I use that to my advantage with my kids. I know what brings me joy and I’ve learned that sharing that part of myself with my babies simply makes me a better mom.

I am a believer. I believe in miracles, kindness, truth, beauty, laughter and LOVE, not the romantic kind (although that’s great) but the universal humanity kind. I believe that GOD is love and love is at the source of who we are. I believe in connecting to that source everyday and doing my best to be being present in each moment and I believe that if we treat that connection with care our lives will flow and anything is possible. However, life is messy and complicated and full of hiccups and headaches and last nights laundry covered in throw-up; any of a million moments that can throw us off track and into a woosah. Despite all the challenges though, I find that I am at my best when I embrace the mess.

I also, in a short trivial add on…

Am a bit of an introvert * Don’t watch the news * Am a chocolate fanatic * Make the best burrito * Spend my spare time in nature or on a volleyball court * Beleive that there is enough “pie” in the world for EVERYONE to have a piece!